You can’t turn on the news without hearing about the flood-related devastation and the unimaginable pain so many, very close—living in Texas, are feeling at this time. It seems that nearly all of us have friends or family with a direct link to the tragedy. Many families and friends have lost loved ones, or are still waiting and hoping for a miracle.
The feeling of hopelessness and helplessness is palpable, watching the news and seeing the tragedy, and the countless heroes who lost their lives, saving others, is unbelievable.
Here are some gentle thoughts if you are uncertain about how to lend your support. Etiquette is about compassion and kindness, and this is the time to step up.
1. Reach Out Privately
When people are at a loss, they often retreat. Send a text or leave a message, saying “I’m here for you. I’m not going away. I’m walking with you through your pain.” Then follow through.
2. Offer Practical Support
Families may need help with food, shelter, running errands, or taking care of children as they support others impacted by the tragedy. Show up and open your doors. Bring a hot meal. Sit quietly and hold their hand.
3. Respect the Dignity of Survivors
The act of giving isn’t a photo-op. Give discreetly and with respect. Skip the donation drop-off selfie or stories that highlight your generosity.
4. Seek Out Local Relief Organizations
While national charities do good work, donating to local food banks, shelters, and Texas organizations on the ground may be more effective when time is of the essence. While gently used clothes or household items may be helpful, many organizations encourage cash in times such as these.
5. Be Proactive
You may not know anyone who has been affected, but you can still help. Donate blood. Volunteer your time. Give to a trusted organization. Avoid going to the scene of so much devastation if you aren’t able to assist on the ground through a qualified organization.
6. Avoid Social Media Rants
Right now, in the midst of intense grief, venomous words drown out the voices of those who are suffering and need our emotional support.
7. Remember Teachers and Students in Affected Areas
Donating school supplies, gift cards, or helping replace classroom materials is a powerful and often overlooked way to help.
8. Be Consistent
This is only the beginning. Support and compassion is a long-term journey. Many are grieving or in shock. Handwritten cards, thoughtful messages, and quiet check-ins mean a great deal.
Keep checking in. Keep giving. Flood recovery takes months, even years. The kindness that lasts is the kindness that heals.
You may also like Kindness in a Bag for the Less Fortunate.
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